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Being a Newly Single Parent Doesn’t Have to Suck.

by | November 28, 2018

I recently became a single mom. It was an extremely scary time in my life. I didn’t know how I was going to navigate the daily slog on my own while mending the pieces of four broken hearts. Being a newly single parent isn’t easy at all. I didn’t know if I’d have enough money or how I would juggle work and childcare, but I had to keep going for everyone’s sake.

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It can be a really tough transition, but I can tell you it gets easier as time goes on and there are actually some benefits to doing it on your own. You will have a newfound freedom to do things your way.

Here’s a guide to help a newly single parent.


You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Work, homework, disciplining kids, cooking dinner, packing lunches, laundry, paying the bills  – the list is endless. And when you’re doing it on your own, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Do yourself a favor and make some “me time” a priority.  Look after yourself and it will be much easier to look after your family. Set aside some time for you every week, even if it’s just a quick mani/pedi or little jog, make sure you eat properly and try to get as much sleep as you can.

Put yourself out there.

As wonderful as your kids probably are,  you’re going to need adult conversation and a break from the daily slog. Invite your girlfriends over, find a new hobby, go out for dinner, or heck, even paint the town red once in a while.

Ask for help.

If you’re offered help, grab it as if it’s a life raft, but don’t be afraid to ask for it if you need it. Support from family and friends is extremely important and can help you get back on your feet. Whether it’s childcare or help with groceries. People want to help, but sometimes you have to ask for it.

You don’t have to answer to anyone!!

Doing things your way, watching your favorite tv shows, making your own decisions and enjoying a more peaceful home life are just a few of the upsides to being a single parent.

You are stronger than you know!

You will find strengths you didn’t know you had, which will give you a new found confidence as you blaize a trail to your new life. You’ve so got this!

Your kids will be ok.

It’s completely normal to worry about how your children will react, but they will probably blow you away with their resilience and will quickly adapt to it being just you at home. You’re doing an awesome job Mama!!

Keep your friends close.

Good girlfriends are going to be your lifeline right now. Surround yourself with them for support. Friends are the biggest support for a newly single parent. 

J.A.D.E.

When it comes to dealing with toxic ex’s or inlaws, repeat this mantra! You NEVER EVER have to Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain yourself to ANYONE!! This will save you from getting into stupid spats with toxic people and you’ll feel so damn strong! Don’t get bated, just say and do what you need and then walk away.

Just breathe…

If life before felt anxious and tense, your new home may well become a more fun and relaxed place to live for everybody. Hooray for no more constant bickering!

It may seem daunting starting a new life alone with your kids, but please just know that you will be OK. You are stronger than you know, in fact, you may just surprise yourself at the things you’re about to achieve. You’ve got this!

Are you a newly single parent? Share your experience with us in the comments below. 

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Julie Nealon

Associate Editor, New York USA | Contactable via [email protected]

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