The Effects of Arguing in Front of Your Child
What are some of the effects of arguing in front of your child?
We have all been there, our spouse does something irritating, perhaps downright infuriating. It’s easy to feel like reprimanding them and showing them who’s boss, but does yelling and screaming ever really solve anything?
The answer is no, it doesn’t, and this heated arguing in front of your child can have a lasting, harmful effect on their mental health. Some people struggle with the ability to control their emotions, but sometimes even the best of us lose our temper. It may have been okay, even forgivable throughout our own lives leading up to parenthood, but what was once okay completely changes when children are involved.
Domestic violence is when the line of arguing gets crossed, and the aggressive behavior in the home becomes violent. Subjecting an innocent child to that environment is never okay. The child should always be thought of first, even though it can be devastating to leave someone you love, even if they are hurting you.
Many studies have shown that the long-term effects of domestic violence on a child are more dire than you may have thought. Anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, anti-social behavior and more are a few of the outcomes of children who have been in a home with domestic violence, even while they are sleeping.
You may not think that your personal bickering is as drastic as domestic violence, but any arguing has the chance of turning into a violent situation. Any arguing in front of your child can, and will, affect them. Having experienced that stress, the child’s brain becomes sensitized, and will experience it again, perhaps worse next time.
We all want to provide a loving, healthy, happy home for our children. We want to show them that disagreeing with each other is a natural thing in life, and how to talk through arguments. We want our children to make this world a better place, but we can not do so without leading by example.
So get out there, take some long walks, enjoy a yoga or meditation session, and center yourself. Remember to leave the situation if it has gotten out of control, even if it breaks your heart because it might do worse to your child. Do all that you can to remain calm in the heat of the moment, your child’s livelihood is riding on you. The effects of arguing in front of your child last longer than you might realize.
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