How To Know When Your Relationship Is Over
Breaking up is never easy, but how do you know when your relationship is over?
Sometimes it can be easy to tell that is it time to break up with your partner, other times it can be a little more difficult. Someone cheated and you can’t get past it, you’re fighting constantly, you don’t feel like they support you or listen to your worries. Sometimes relationships come to an end quietly and mutually, which is easier for everyone involved, other times, they can be a nightmare. It can be difficult to tell when it’s time to call it quits in your relationship, maybe one of you has fallen out of love with the other, or you’re grown into people that still care about each other a lot, but aren’t in love with each other anymore and can’t work as a couple.
If you’ve found your self in the kind of relationship where you don’t know if your relationship is over or not, it can be a confusing and difficult time. Sometimes you might just need to work on your relationship, and that is a valid option. However, if you’ve tried that and you’re still not happy or it’s still not working then it may be time to accept your relationship needs to come to an end.
Here are 5 signs that your relationship is over.
1. You don’t care anymore
Every relationship needs work, from all parties involved. If you’ve found yourself not caring about the relationship anymore then it may be a sign that you need to break up. But it’s not just telling the other person that you don’t care, you really need to feel like the relationship is over. Sometimes people will say they don’t care out of anger in the heat of the moment, but they don’t mean it. If you truly feel like you don’t care enough to work on your relationship anymore then it’s a major sign that you shouldn’t be involved in the relationship anymore.
2. It’s a new relationship, but you’re having big fights
This is a big warning sign. If you’re in a new relationship it should be the ‘honeymoon’ period where you’re getting to know one another and are generally more tolerant, supportive and patient of the other person. If you’re already having huge fights then it’s a sign for the future. If you’re acting like this now in the early stages of your relationship, it isn’t going to get better with time.
3. Your values don’t match
If you and your partner have different values for your lives, then it can be a hard obstacle to overcome. For example, if you know you want to be a parent in the future and your partner expresses they don’t want to have kids. Yeah, they might change their mind later on down the line, but if you don’t want to live your life thinking about ‘what if’ then it might be time to call it quits on your relationship.
4. You can’t stand each other
If you or your partner can’t stand to be around each other anymore and are always finding excuses to not spend time together then it might be time to take a look in the mirror and see if you really want to be in this relationship anymore or if you are only continuing on in it for the convenience. If you’re talking to each other with hate in your voice and don’t value each other anymore it might be time to accept your relationship is over and you need to move on.
5. There’s something missing
Any healthy relationship needs all parties involved to feel loved, connected to each other and like spending time together. If your relationship is missing one of these pieces you can try to work on it, but it might be a sign that your relationship is over and you need to sit down with your partner and talk about it. Maybe you have gone from being lovers to best friends, missing the sexual desire you once had for each other, but still care deeply about each other. But it’s not just sex, if you’re excited to see each other all the time but can’t talk about your finances then that is also a problem and a sign that your relationship will probably not last the test of time.
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