When my son was born I didn’t know what to expect from people visiting us. It had been so long since I had visited a newborn, and never as an adult, so I didn’t even know where to start. We had our share of visitors and I learned something from each one. I decided to compile a list of 10 tips for visiting a newborn if you are out of practice.
1. Don’t wear perfume!
Have you ever noticed that when you hug someone you smell like their perfume/cologne? Yeah, this is a brand new baby and you are probably planning on holding them. This poor little baby is going to be forced to breathe in that perfume/cologne and
then continue to smell like it after you’ve passed Baby back to Mom. Newborns are very sensitive to smells (as could be Mom/Dad), plus perfumes/colognes are full of harmful chemicals that babies should not be breathing.
2. Bring food they like.
If they are at home bring something. A treat, a full meal, something. What’s that you said? They’re vegans and you don’t know what to do? Google your favorite recipe with the word “vegan” in front and make it, pick up something at their favorite vegan
restaurant, or ask them what you can do. They’ll be so thrilled.
3. See if there is anything else they need.
Piggy backing on the food, ask if you can pick up anything for them-groceries, toilet paper, shampoo-even if they say no they’ll appreciate that you asked.
4. Don’t stay long. Stay 30 mins – 1 hour tops.
There are lots of people that want to see the baby. Remember that the new parents are tired and want to spend time together as a new family too.
5. Don’t come if you’re sick!
It doesn’t matter how excited you are to see this new baby, if you are showing any kind of symptoms, STAY HOME! The parents will understand and thank you for that. The baby will still be there when you’re healthy.
I know it’s hard when there is a new baby in the family but the first people to visit should be the people who are closest to the parents and new baby. Grandparents, siblings, aunts/uncles of this baby come before others. If you only talk to the parents once every six months at most, you should wait until the baby is at least a month old before visiting.
7. Don’t be a chew toy!
Seriously. Don’t stick your finger in the new baby’s mouth. Instead ask for a pacifier or something else. There is no reason for you to be doing that.
8. Don’t post on social media.
Let the parents be the first to show their child off to the world. They’re probably bursting with pride to do it, so don’t steal their thunder. On a side note, talk to them about posting pictures of their child on your social media accounts. They may not be
comfortable with that at all. More and more parents aren’t posting pictures of their kids online for privacy reasons.
9. If you are bringing a gift…gift cards are a good choice.
After the baby comes the new parents realize that they forgot to get socks for the baby or the baby just grew out of their newborn hats and they need the next size up. You may love that knick-knack but they really need diapers instead of something else to dust. Also always make sure to include the gift receipt.
10. Stop with the guilt trip.
The parents aren’t sending you a new picture every day, the other grandparents get to see the baby more often, it doesn’t matter what it’s about. It’s not ok so stop it.