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Disneyland Dad, How Do I Compete with That?

by | December 24, 2018

I’m one of the lucky single moms who get to co-parent with two baby daddies. Their parenting styles are as different as chalk and vegan cheese. One is a minimalist, as in he likes to do the bare minimum he has to do to get by, the other? He’s Mr. Over-the-top, a ‘Disneyland Dad‘, if you will, always doing the fun things with my kid that I don’t get to do because A; I have to do the weekday/night stuff like homework, baths, rules and chores, and B. I don’t have the disposable income or family support that he has.

Don’t get me wrong, my ex is a really good father, it just hurts me, and maybe the kid eventually, that I don’t ever get to do any of the fun stuff.

Disneyland Dad- Yay or Nay?
Disneyland dad?
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Disneyland Dad- Yay or Nay?

I might sound like a miserable b***h, who doesn’t want her kid to have any fun, but that’s not the case at all.  While I would love to be able to spoil my kids all the time, I feel like I’m doing something way more important. I’m teaching them the ways of the real world. Making sure that they’re prepared for the rules and regulations of life, and trying my hardest not to raise spoiled little a**holes. I do however feel that all of my hard parenting-work gets unraveled while they’re away and that is frustrating as all he**. When they come back there are tantrums when it’s time to go to bed or do any chores, with wails of ‘Daddy never makes me do it’.

Every visit is full of special outings, some a simple as going to the movies, eating out every meal, and some as elaborate as literally taking the kid to Disneyland. That actually happened, while I was struggling to find a new place to live that I could actually afford with my new single income, my kid was whisked off by Disneyland dad to a fun place for the first time, and without me. The dad who used to spend every weekend asleep on the couch and never had any interest in family activities was now the first in line to see Santa when he arrived at the mall.

Most of the time I feel like I have to be the bad cop-parent and I’m a little resentful of it, but I just have to keep reminding myself that I’m a good mom, with a good heart, who loves her kids and does a pretty ok-ish job at keeping them alive. 

Do you feel like you co-parent with a Disneyland Dad/Mom?

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Julie Nealon

Associate Editor, New York USA | Contactable via [email protected]



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